Wednesday, January 06, 2010

Did she deserve to be molested openly by 4 guys?

i believe everyone's heard/read about the girl who was openly molested by 4 guys at the siloso beach's countdown party. read the comments about how she deserved it, and others argued that she doesnt.
(for the STOMP article, click here)

seriously, what's with the "deserving" part?
i) is it about how she deserved to be molested?
ii) or is it about it being filmed and publicized?
iii) or what?!

well in my opinion, of course, no girls should be treated or humiliated this way (getting molested at crowded parties, NO MATTER HOW SHE IS DRESSED).

however, from the video clip and snapshots,
- she looked like a willing party to me, (she did not show any displeasure)
- she didnt look like she was struggling,
- in the video clip, she was actually smiling!
- it seemed as though she's enjoying the attention when everybody was filming. 
- and did i see her pulling her bra cup down to reveal her nipples? (i am not very sure about this as the video is blurry, i may have mistaken it!)

& the question is: why didnt anybody helped her, right?
i strongly believe that if she shouted: MOLEST! or HELP!, people would have helped her out of the situation.
many also argued that instead of recording it, they should have asked her if she needs any help. well, i thought that recording it down might be a little too much (dont want to help also dont have to film it down right!), maybe they should have approached her, but c'mon, if you desperately need help, you would have shouted right? if you are being raped, you would be screaming away instead of waiting for people to come forward to ask if you need help right, (but then again, normally rape cases are in somewhat secluded places) but you get my point, dont you?

& yeah, she's wasted already, how to cry for help, right?
well, as we all can see, she is still standing, and dancing, it proves she's not dead drunk or something.
if she really wants to protect herself, even in subconsciousness, she would have struggled or shouted.

what i am thinking deep down is, whether conscious or under the influence of alcohol, if a girl's breast has been groped, no matter what she would have at least struggled or at least push it away. unless she is "already used to breasts being groped" or something like that. i cant seem to pen down my thoughts accurately, but what i am trying to say is, girls who love and respect themselves would never allow such things to happen, no matter conscious or in subconsciousness (or even asleep), it is like a natural reaction to push the hands away when people touch your breasts. girls out there, am i right?

on a side note, it is embarrassing isnt it (to all the other gentlemen out there), to take advantage of a woman because she is drunk. no matter what is it, those molesters have committed indecent acts, in one way or another. (one of the comments from STOMP) if this girl is a victim, it's a outrage of modesty. or if she's a willing party, it's indecent act in the public.

i do sympathize the girl's parents/people who love her. if this girl is really a victim, do make a police report and have those guys arrested (since their pictures are everywhere).

to girls out there, do take care of yourselves. afterall alcohol is not good for health :D
if you think such things will not happen to you ...

some time ago, my girl friend went drinking with some of her guy friends. she was dead drunk and raped by one of the guys who was supposed to send her home but instead, brought her to his place. it was a not-so-close friend who had a crush on her. and she lost her virginity just like that. true story.

sad but true, she had to learn this the hard way. & i guess she'll probably see this but dont worry girl, i'll never divulge your name, & i do love you!

just my two cents worth! (about the molest-thingy)
hasta la vista!

27 comments:

Boon said...

Yea, girls should really be careful out there and don't take alcohol when you're not around with a group of trusted friends. Thanks for you info. =)

June said...

haiz...singapore has got alot of NATO ppl.. now they say she deserve it, she deserve it..when it happens to their own frenz or relative then they will say wear bikini also cannot touch wat...

von Yvonne said...

to Boon: yeah, what happened to my friend was really beyond my imagination, they were supposed to be friends but still the guy did such things to her. so i would go for "know your limit", even with friends around.

to June: hmm what's NATO?

Kelvin said...

My friend was there when it happened, its not tat no one wants to help, but the girl is really enjoying it so they thought she was a willing party.

von Yvonne said...

to Kelvin: it really seems that way luh, even to me =.='' somemore if she didnt need help, by approaching her, you would have gotten yourself into trouble by offending those "molesters". who knows what will happen then

Kelvin said...

And girls who saw the clip scolded us guys for not helping out.
I got scolded by a bitch friend for nothing lol, saying guys are all beasts.

As if tat night got girls went up and stop them.

von Yvonne said...

to Kelvin: no, that's not true! not all guys are beasts!! yeah, maybe girls dont dare because they are afraid they might be the next victim?

dblchin said...

I've already said this on youtube bt nevertheless I will say it again.
Either way, Whether the girl is willing or not. Such behavior is not appropriate in public be it the podium. Taking advantage of holiday celebrations like these realli does shake to the minds of such party goers. I was there too at the siloso beach party but after knowing of such incidents I have my doubts about hanging out at beach parties again. This is definitely not a eye candy scene, is a disturbing act that bring tremors to every girl's nightmare.

von Yvonne said...

to dblchin: yes, i agree too! i've never been to countdown parties because i even find mrts too crowded, and i hate that =.='' i do hope that action will be done against those guys who were involved especially since their pictures are everywhere, at least, i hope it would serve at a deterrence.

Kristin said...

anyway it's kinda been confirm that she is a shemale. So I wont pity her. hehe

von Yvonne said...

to Kristin: OMG! why did they even grope her then T____T

roger said...

Wow your not-so-close friend is such a dick la! But yeah I heard of similar stories before. Pretty disgusting.

von Yvonne said...

to roger: =.='' not my not-so-close friend, i dont even know the guys personally.

kenwooi said...

she seemed to be enjoying it.. no further comments.. =P

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Caffery said...

She is cheap, no need to help anymore.

P!aymore™ said...

Hmm.. I really have no say on this. If she is enjoying it so much wat others can do to help?

junsern said...

i have to agree wit ken.. she looks like she is enjoying the attraction too... if she dont want she should have either slap or struggle...

Kelvin said...

No lah, u r one of the best kind pretty girl around^^

piglet said...

i super agree with you girl .. bottomline also is : KNOW YOUR LIMITS ... wether towards alcohol or any other rhings ,, one must and should know their limits ..

Edwin said...

I think it's a male. You can check out the new picture in my site to determine for yourself!

wayangtimes said...

Hmm but many of us think that she was actually struggling in the video leh. But nevertheless such behaviour should not be condoned in the public space.

CripsyCaiHong said...

being a girl is so not as safe as being a guy

so next life,i must be a guy kekek

von Yvonne said...

to Kenwooi, Caffery, Playmore, Junsern: hah yeah, it's like if she really need help she would have screamed or ran away.

to Kelvin: hehe xie xie ^^,

to Piglet: yeah, crudely put: beh lim mai lim. must have discipline lor, some people just get too carried away... sigh.

to edwin: hmm i saw those pictures of "her" le, she's not even in bikini =.=''

to wayangtimes: yeah, and i think anyhow, those "molesters" should be arrested! cos no matter what, (the girl willing or not), the guys did commit indecent acts.

to crispycaihong: hah! i like being a girl, getting vain, doll up etc, it outweighs the safeness of being a girl to me, and if i am relaly careful, i think the safeness part can be eliminated right? hehehe

stephy-nie said...

well we can't really say much nor judge cause it's really her choice to ask for help or to just stand there and enjoy being groped. but then again yeah it's scary these days cause these people just do as they wish and take all the advantages they can. @@ shall never get drunk in public places without girlfriends/ real real real close friends

von Yvonne said...

to stephy-nie: yeah, bottom line is to know your limits. :D seldom see you on innit already!

Anonymous said...

its fine since its a group of singh/indians groping a fellow guy/tranves.

von Yvonne said...

to anonymous: lolol!

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