i believe everyone's heard/read about the girl who was openly molested by 4 guys at the siloso beach's countdown party. read the comments about how she deserved it, and others argued that she doesnt.
(for the STOMP article, click
here)
seriously, what's with the "deserving" part?
i) is it about how she deserved to be molested?
ii) or is it about it being filmed and publicized?
iii) or what?!
well in my opinion, of course, no girls should be treated or humiliated this way (getting molested at crowded parties, NO MATTER HOW SHE IS DRESSED).
however, from the video clip and snapshots,
- she looked like a willing party to me, (she did not show any displeasure)
- she didnt look like she was struggling,
- in the video clip, she was actually smiling!
- it seemed as though she's enjoying the attention when everybody was filming.
- and did i see her pulling her bra cup down to reveal her nipples? (i am not very sure about this as the video is blurry, i may have mistaken it!)
& the question is: why didnt anybody helped her, right?
i strongly believe that if she shouted: MOLEST! or HELP!, people would have helped her out of the situation.
many also argued that instead of recording it, they should have asked her if she needs any help. well, i thought that recording it down might be a little too much (dont want to help also dont have to film it down right!), maybe they should have approached her, but c'mon, if you desperately need help, you would have shouted right? if you are being raped, you would be screaming away instead of waiting for people to come forward to ask if you need help right, (but then again, normally rape cases are in somewhat secluded places) but you get my point, dont you?
& yeah, she's wasted already, how to cry for help, right?
well, as we all can see, she is still standing, and dancing, it proves she's not dead drunk or something.
if she really wants to protect herself, even in subconsciousness, she would have struggled or shouted.
what i am thinking deep down is, whether conscious or under the influence of alcohol, if a girl's breast has been groped, no matter what she would have at least struggled or at least push it away. unless she is "already used to breasts being groped" or something like that. i cant seem to pen down my thoughts accurately, but what i am trying to say is, girls who love and respect themselves would never allow such things to happen, no matter conscious or in subconsciousness (or even asleep),
it is like a natural reaction to push the hands away when people touch your breasts. girls out there, am i right?
on a side note, it is embarrassing isnt it (to all the other gentlemen out there), to take advantage of a woman because she is drunk. no matter what is it, those molesters have committed indecent acts, in one way or another. (one of the comments from STOMP) if this girl is a victim, it's a outrage of modesty. or if she's a willing party, it's indecent act in the public.
i do sympathize the girl's parents/people who love her. if this girl is really a victim, do make a police report and have those guys arrested (since their pictures are everywhere).
to girls out there, do take care of yourselves. afterall alcohol is not good for health :D
if you think such things will not happen to you ...
some time ago, my girl friend went drinking with some of her guy friends. she was dead drunk and raped by one of the guys who was supposed to send her home but instead, brought her to his place. it was a not-so-close friend who had a crush on her. and she lost her virginity just like that. true story.
sad but true, she had to learn this the hard way. & i guess she'll probably see this but dont worry girl, i'll never divulge your name, & i do love you!
just my two cents worth! (about the molest-thingy)
hasta la vista!